I’ve been single for more than a year now and I have to admit I don’t mind being single. I learned that it’s better to be single than to be in toxic relationship or to be unhappy with someone. But it’s been a year and I felt like it’s time for me to start dating again. I’ve been on some dates in past year but nothing that is worth mentioning or remembering. I thought it would be fun to talk about how is dating scene in 2018, I definitely didn’t expect that it would be this different than a year before.
So as I said I’m back to dating and in past two months I’ve been on many dates. None of them were that successful so I’m in relationship right now. I’m still single and looking for new dates, because dating is fun. Of course you do get some awful dates, but getting to know someone on date is really fun to me. I’m going to be honest it is really hard to find someone worth going on date with. You kinda feel like some people are just not worth it, I’m definitely not here to waste my time on someone that doesn’t deserve me, you know? I have to admit that dating completely changed, it is so hard right now. People think that if they go out on date with you that it is acceptable for them to act super sexually and to be all touchy. I’m different, I like to use first date just for getting to know each other and that means “only talking”.
I’ve been on some dates where guys were just constantly touching me and I have to admit it is super uncomfortable. Like seriously get you s*it together or just control for an hour you are spending getting to know me. Let’s just say that every guy that was overly “excited” being around me didn’t get second date. I might sound cocky here, but I always get ask for second date. I can easily say that I’m good at dating, I just know how to get guys attention and interest. If you would like me to write some tips and tricks how to be flawless at date let me know and I can do that blog post.
I have this feeling that first date is like going out with new friend, it should be just talking. On second date when you already know a little bit about the guy you can kiss and do some other stuff. How far you would go is totally up to you, I’m a little bit old fashioned, so for me it is nothing more than a kiss and maybe a cuddle and that is if I really like the guy. Two years ago when you go on second date you already know is the person you are dating a potential boyfriend or not. Right now dating takes a lot longer. I’ve been on 5 dates with one guy and we didn’t discuss potential relationship, you are kinda in between which in my opinion is never a good thing. So when he asked me for 6th date I didn’t accept it, because I felt like he wasn’t ready for step further and he just wanted to be “friends with benefits” or something along those lines which I’m definitely not a girl for. I felt like he just wanted to hang around with me because he thought I’m fun and pretty, but didn’t really want to give up his single life.
Some people are just too busy for dating. I meet a guy that is super fun to be around and I could imagine being in relationship with but he works too much. Every time we would meet for a date he was tired and you could see that he is trying his best to be fun, but you can see that he just doesn’t have energy for the date. You feel bad because he should be resting at home, but he is there with you and it’s just not working out. You also meet people that are trying so hard to impress you and they are trying to seem super fun, intelligent and you can just see that they are acting. I’m just too good at “reading” people, it’s hard to fool me. I just feel like why would you pretend to be something you are not just to impress your date? It is just a waste of time, it doesn’t work.
I’m trying to keep my spirit up when it comes to dating and think positive, but I had a lot of weird experiences in these two months of my dating life. I’m going to be really honest, it’s hard to find someone that fits your idea of a good boyfriend. I don’t want to be in relationship just for sake of having it. I’m searching for someone to spend quality time with and have fun, but still understanding a person and sharing same opinions. It is definitely challenging, it takes a lot of time and energy to be actively dating believe me. I feel like I need a break just to catch my breath and see where I’m at. I’m not giving up on dating, but I’ll start to be super selective. I was already selective, but this time I will trust my guts 100%. I knew that some of guys that I went on date with weren’t good for me, but I decided to give them a chance. It resulted of me being frustrated and wasting my time on some dates that I knew couldn’t be good in first place.
That’s all from me today. This turned out to be quite a long post, sorry about that. This is definitely something different from me, but I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you had fun while reading. Let me know what do you think? Are you single and currently dating or you are in happy relationship? What are your thoughts on dating, let me know! Thank you for reading. Have a nice day! xx